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Reporting a concern
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I have concerns about my ex wife's behaviour around my children. I believe that she has said and has been saying bad things about me to my children that may turn them against me. I am not sure where to go with this one as I feel she does have some serious mental health problems, not in a psycho way, but she is very vindictive, deceitful, and uses mind games to mess with people's heads. She is very controlling and has the ability to act in way that makes every one believe what she is saying. I am scared for my children's mental and emotional state as she uses bribery tactics to buy their love and the children wont know any different as she did this while we were together as a family.
Who do i contact with these concerns, Where to i go to raise these issues. It eats away at me, as I have seen my kids several times since my ex stopped contact for no valid reason other than to hurt me and cause me distress. They have shyed away from me seeing fear in their little eyes so scared to approach me or my partner.
This is very tricky as what you are describing is parental alienation syndrome which, as yet, is not recognised by the court - you could try contacting social services, but unless there is an immediate threat to their mental or physical wellbeing (and trying to show that she is poisoning them against you is going to be very hard, and unfortunately not high on their list of priorities), they probably won't do much about it. Your possible actions are to try to resolve it via mediation - it depends on whether your ex is prepared to come to some arrangement - or to go to court, but again, unless she is actually stopping contact, it's going to be an uphill struggle. I'm sorry I can't be more positive here - hopefully others on here may have some ideas.