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So my 5 month old spends a decent amount of time with her maternal grandad and my wife and I live under his roof while our house gets done up.
Earlier today grandad was carrying my daughter and walked past me in the kitchen and went in the bathroom for a wee with my child in hand.
I was a bit flabbergasted to say the least as I didn't expect that sort of behaviour from any guardian of my baby. Am I overreacting? I expected him to hand me my daughter while he went for a wee and collect her back on his return.
We are living under his roof but this really has not helped my paranoia as a first time parent. I have spoken to my wife who spoke to him and he said he won't do it again (damage in trust has already happened)
Any advice appreciated!
hi, sorry to hear this. how are things now?
Hello hazza26,
I'm hope that this hasn't happened again and that the trust that you have been rebuilding is still intact. As your little one grows older, I'm guessing that you will have moved into your renovated home, so you're not all living together? I would suggest that it is always good to encourage safe boundaries and talk to your child about what is acceptable and not socially - for example the "no touching rule" around sensitive areas of the body, assuring them it's ok to say "no" to a hug or a kiss from an older relative or friend, or anyone for that matter. There are some great children's books you can get that talk about this.
I would hope that the incident was just a one off, and it is good that your wife did talk to Grandad about it, but by encouraging boundaries and polite behaviour, everyone knows where they stand and children know that it is ok to say "No".
All the best,
Fegans Parent Support.
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