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hi me and the ex were together for 3 years we have a 2 year old son and she also has 2 other kids by previous relationships and whilst we were together she told about her ex and that when she was 6 months pregnant with her 2nd child (his child), social services came round and told her that he wasn't allowed by children as 7 years before he got done for manslaughter of a 8 month old child to which she finished with him immediately. And then last Sunday i was told she was back with him and that he has been around my son, so i rang her and asked about it and said if i found out it was true i would be ringing social services and going for full custody to which she put the phone down on me. Then half hour later i get a phone call off him threatening me telling me hes going to kill me and the only way he could of got my number was off her, so i phoned the police and they went round her house and he was their with her and her children and my son and some of her family and they didn't do nothing they said they were happy with my sons well being and his safety yet ive red about the court case and in that court case one of the polices Det inspectors said that this man had a very low tolerance towards children, my ex new all about this years ago and yet she has still put my son in danger what kind of mother does that?. Social services have told her that if she does this again her kids will be taken off her yet i still don't trust her not to do it again. I have been to see a solicitor and she seems to think that the court wont give me full custody i don't get it. I'm still going to go for full custody but don't no what else i can to have a better chance off getting full custody any ideas?
I would speak to social services and tell them what you would like to do - if they are considering really removing your son from your ex, it would help them to know that you want to go for residence.
yea i have told them that i want custody they just told me to see a solicitor
Unfortunately, there are no guarantees either way - did your solicitor say why he didn't think you'd get residence and is he aware of the situation with the social services.