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Hello all, as a guest i have browsed alot of the articles in the past, as i find most websites are bias towards the mother.
Cutting a avery long story short, to save me typing and gauge interest.
I have a daughter with a lady i dated previously and had one night stand with after we split up. I love my daighter to bits, but her mom is very unreasonable.
i know that the mother's mom and dad whom she lives with have had issues with domestic violence, this is known from 10 or so years ago when i previously dated the mother of my child - this was before my daughter was born.
my daughter arrives without her teeth being cleaned, which she is currently recieving dental treatment for filings on her baby teeth
shes says she only has a bath on a sunday
we have had a chat at the mothers place of work (not m idea on location #awkwardpub) where she raised her concern that she was worried about her weight, this then i ask making general conversation after picking up my daighter "what you had this week etc..." usually there are 3 or 4 fast food refernces
she has only recently just started to sleep on her own, she is aged 8, the nan not the mom has shared a sofa bed for the past 3 or 4 years with her
this has made her sleeping pattern poor, and is watching innapropaite pogramms until all the adults have gone to bed etc..
but as suggested this has changed she is now sleeping in her room arbeit her nan is on the floor but she is still not sleeping until 11/12 at night
breakfast choices is poor - choclate crossaunt in the car
ill fitted clothes, instead of going to primark and maxng out the CSA on clothes it is one o two choice items from trendy stores which have lasted but now dont fit
i am unable to take her to London as her mom doesnt want to miss her first time in the capital, i have missed the first 3 years of her life as i was banned from seeing her
i have found out recently that school was informed that she was ill but attednded a theme park with the family.
my wife has been banned from picking her up, so i pick up her up after work, which due to traffic i am not getting there until 6, but then having her back by 9 means little time, but the time i do have with her usually is her homework as it suggested she not reminded to do it on other days
i have photographic evidnce of explicit homosexual one direction porn on my dughters mom's old phone, that was not wiped or still linked to a cloud.
everytime i want to say something i chicken out as she threatens me with mediation or CAFCAS??, we have been to mediation previosuly over a toy that apperently was promised and i let her down (apparently)
mediation costs money and so does courts and the little money i have i want to take her out, sve for chrtistmas and bdays etc...
so to keep the peace i have tried to do it amicable for years agreeing to everything but enough is enough and i need advice.
i am wanting to claim legal aid and challenge for full time care as i believe the above is examples of child abuse / neglect
all this has come about as i asked to cancel myusual midweek slot to attend a family funeral (wife's side) she said its been happening alot recently and the only other time i prompted her and remined her was when i needed to go to parents evenng for my son.
i attend all parents evening with the mother and daughter and we take it in turns to foot the food bill after - no one moans when i cancel any pre arragend plans to attend daughters parents evening .
Please help
Hi There,
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You wouldn't be able to get legal aid, as that has now stopped. and you would firstly need to attend mediation before you can apply to court.
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Have you raised your concerns with social services?
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GTTS
Hi there
Perhaps you should talk to the school, make an appointment and go in and talk to the head about your concerns, staying up late and missing school are very much areas that they may be interested in. You could also try sharing your concerns with Social Services, as GTTS suggests, but to be honest, they may not seem as concerned as you about the level of neglect that you have mentioned, it's what they may class as borderline, however it's worth talking to them and asking them to make a note of your concerns.
As has also been said, you will need to attempt mediation before you can apply to the court. If the mediation session you attended previously was less than four months ago, the mediator might agree to sign the form, it's worth asking.
All the best
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