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I am separated from my wife since January this year, we have a 7 year old boy who is suffering due to our situation but mainly due to my wife being a controlling sociopath. I do not use the term lightly. I have realised since our separation that my wife's mental state has been the cause of our relationship problems and am at a loss as to what to do. She spends every waking hour trying to control everything around her and bending it all to her distorted views born out of her high anxiety levels and from a selfish viewpoint. She spoils time I have with our son and try's to make him frightened of me. I don't believe she is generally aware of what she is doing and I am not equipped for this sort of warfare against me. Our current arrangement of time with our son is that he goes between us every day for 12 out of the 14 days in a two week period then stays 3 days with his mum making an average split of 3 days with me and 4 days with her each week. This enables her to control my time with my son never allowing more than a day at a time without first controlling what we are doing. My son is suffering, I am suffering, what can I do. Help. :
I'm not sure I fully understand the arrangements - does your son stay with you overnight at all or is the 3 days with you just a total of 72 hours during the 14 days?
Either way, it's obviously not working, so it may be worth trying mediation to see if you can come to a better arrangement for both you and your son.
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