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hi i was hoping to get some advice off anyone whos been in my situation. i split up with my ex 6 months after my daughter was born because she was cheating on me. contact stayed really good for two years after this and i eventually moved in with a new girl and had a baby but contact still stayed great for about 6 months. the relationship me and my daughter have is amazing we were so close and her mother hated that. my ex has bipolar and has always suffered depression. last october after she met another new boyfriend she stopped all contact after an argument we had about her moving my daughter in with a bloke she met on the internet 2 weeks prior 200 miles away. she even went to the courts and got a non molestation order out on me on the basis that she thinks in going to kill her. her bipolar seems to be worse then ever and her consistant lies are rediculous.i got to court for contact order but i couldnt afford a solicitor so self represented. i was given supervised contact because of my exs lies to which during this my ex has made up even more lies about supervised contact. she says i am being to touchly feely and cuddly with my daughter at the centre and this is to enable to whisper and talk quietly to her without the staff being aware of what i am saying. i dont understand why she is saying these things. i have always been a good father and when i see her at the centre we have an amazing time, every week i get paints and glitter and make things together. my ex has filed allegations, that she fears for my daughter but my daughter is very happy when she is with me but the staff at the centre cant do reports for me and caffcass are only coming to see me at my house, not at the centre when i see my daughter. i need to prove that my ex is lying. i can see the pain my daughter is in, she scribbles out faces on all pictures and have been told by her solicitor my daugher is hitting out at her mother and saying she hates her. my daughter is so confused. i had to go part time at work so i could get legal aid which will hopefully be in two weeks. today i recieved an email from her soliitor saying she has moved away to the same place 200 miles away she was threatening to move away to last year. her solicitor says that i can have same contact in wiltshire but after cutting my hours to fund this i am going to really struggle to live because no matter what i will go there every week to see her, it kills me to see that my exs actions are tearing apart the lives of myself and my daughter. the last 7 months have been so hard mentally but after finding out shes taken my daughter i am finding it harder then ever. my ex is throwing everything at me shes trying to get me out of my daughters life for good but i will never give up.
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