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Reporting a concern
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I have just got back from a contact session with my 3 year old daughter and have been left feeling very uneasy about a few things that happened today.
The relationship between my daughter's mother and her husband is very strained and there have been threats and accusations thrown left, right and centre by the pair of them making me very wary to follow through any of my concerns for fear of the backlash. My daughter calls me her other daddy and her step father daddy (much to my dislike) but today she bluntly told me that I am not her dad in a way that alarmed me because she is usually very loving.
Also on collection and drop off of my daughter her step father would not leave her side, which was unusual because her mother would usually do "the swap" and kept asking how she was and then explaining how she had fallen out of bed and hurt her arm. She clung on to him and wouldn't even respond to her mother or give me a kiss goodbye until he told her to. I know it might not sound like much but I am really uneasy with this and unsure of what to do.
This man has a horrific history and I am shocked that my ex was awarded a residency order for my little girl to live with this man. It must just be father's intuition but I feel she is being manipulated by this man and I want my little girl to be safe.
Advice please.
Thanks.
Was it your ex who had fallen out of bed & hurt her arm or your daughter? When you say the man has a horrific history, what do you mean? Have you speoken to your ex re your concerns & maybe offer to help her if you thnk she/daughter may be in danger? If you have serious concerns I would advise you to contact social services and report what you feel concerned about. You may not be the only one to have reported concerns, e.g. preschool/nursery of your child would if they were concerned for the welfare of the child. Hope this helps some what.