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Hi
I'm married 7.5 years living together 9 years have 4 kids. Until one day she asked me few day space. When I come back home that was another man in our house both naked . I called 999 on my self and told them to come and take me away or I will do something to both of them and I take video of both of them. Kids was in bed. Then she kick me out of house telling to her family and her friends that she been abused for past 9 years. That man didn't stay long and gone after few weeks. Then she bring another one and another one and then first one come back and few weeks later gone again and she bring again another one. And I have all this on video pictures recorded. This all going for 3.5 month now. I never been reported for domestic violence or abuse. And she still didn't report me to police or social services because she know it's not true. She just telling to her family. First 3 weeks she didn't show me my 4 kids. Then I told her that I will involve social services because if she prefer live her life like [censored] then is her choice but my kids didn't choice this. After she started to show me kids any day I like I even going to house having diner some days but she still living that life. I told her also kids will live with me for 3 4 day and rest with her . And when kids live with her she not aloud to bring strangers. She is ok with that. I'm I doing right or Not? Any advice on my situation please. I just can't believe peoples can change that much and that quick. Sad
If she sticks to the agreement, then it seems to me that the two of you are starting to work out a manageable arrangement, where your kids aren't exposed to her life. It is always better to try to work things out rather than use the court if possible.
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