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Hi dont know if this is the right place for this, but here goes.
I have become a dad for the first time pretty late in life, in my 40's, she is my angel and will be one later this month, yet I have not seen her since she was 3 and half weeks old. That was 46 weeks ago.
So i have been threw the mill, with her mum dumping me as soon as she was pregnant, losing my job, depression, anxiety etc, she was born a high light, but then she refused me access and contact when she was 3 weeks old.
I have been able to get work agian these last 5 months, running up a huge solicitors bill in getting her to court and chasing her mum not only around the town, but she left the area for 3 months or more and then (unknown reason) she came back and now hoping that I will get some contact through the courts.
I have tickked the boxes, jumped thro her hoops, and I have even got my own place and two up two down terrace, after spending some time with my bank and working it out it is doable, just.
So my princess is nearly one, later this month, and I am hoping that things get sorted house wise, decorating and furniture as it is a bear shell of a house, so my angel can spend weekends with me sooon and one night a week.
I need to get her a bed, or is it a cot ?
Wont she be too young for a toddler bed tho they say they are for one year oold, and those bed rails, what are they all about, sure they might stop her rolling out but she will be learning to walk, whats stopping her getting around the side of them and falling? and come 6 months when she is walking she will be able to get out.
I will have gates on her door so she wouldnt get far. but should i go for a cot for a short term like till she is 2 or 3 and take a hit when i have to get a bed later?
This is all very confusing, can anyone give me some good ideas and tips with this.
Pete
Hi Pete,
Well done for all the effort you are putting into getting back into your babies life and I wish you every success.
As far as the correct bed to use, she is too young in my opinion to use a toddler bed. Babies usually stay in their cots until they are between 2-3yrs old. They move around a lot through the night and the cot provides a safe sleeping area. Go for the cot.
Thanks Mojo,
I have seen one cot that will turn into a bed for when she is older on amazon, not too expensive either. So i will have a closer look at that one.
This is all new and exciting tho.
Pete
Hi Pete ,
You can find lots of bargains on EBay and also Argos and Babies R Us often have reductions on baby products. My daughter finds the bedding in Asda very reasonable and you can also buy complete bedding bundles in Mothercare. There are websites called Precious Little One and Kiddicare both very reasonable!
My grandson has just been moved from a cot to a toddler bed, he is 2yrs 3mths old. He climbed out at around 20 months old the first time but he must have frightened himself because he didn't attempt to do that again until a couple of weeks ago! Sinc his first escape my daughter has had a safety gate across his bedroom door to stop him from gaining access to the bathroom or the stairs!
Thanks Nannyjane,
Been discussing how many gates I should have, one for bedroom and stairs and probably an extra one which is movable so i can use it for kitchen when cooking.
I dont like the thought of putting her in a room with a door closed thats for sure.
I hopefully tomorrow afternoon I start my shopping for the house and will have a look at the suppliers, and charity shops too, dont worry will use fresh brand new mattress tho.
I bought a second hand toddler bed for my grandson, you can get some bargains! It was like new, and yes you're right about a new mattress!
My daughter has two, both pressure fit so that she can move them around. She has just moved and she has one across the bottom of the stairs, both her kitchen/diner and lounge open into the hallway so he has the run of the downstairs. We just put safety catches on the kitchen cupboards and drawers so that he can't open them....little ones are so quick at getting in things and making a mess! She has the other across his bedroom door , she has always left his bedroom door open so that she can hear him if he wakes etc.
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