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I have been divorced from my ex wife for about 6 years now and currently live with another partner. My 12 year old daughter still lives with her mother, and her 25 and 23 year old brothers. I have got a child passport for my daughter and got this when i took her on holiday to tenerife a few years back. Just recently, my daughter informed me that one of her brothers (who lives with them) and his ex girlfriend (who i hardly know), and their two children (about 5 years old and 7 respectively), are all going on holiday in September (during school time to Turkey). This is without my ex (her mum). I feel very uneasy about this as her dad, partly because she will miss some schooling, but mainly because
1. it is a long way away,
2. Her brother was very abusive to my new partner a while ago, and has a checkered track record as far as reliability is concerned.
3. He is going with his supposed ex girlfriend, who i don't really know.
4. Her mum is not going. I would be ok about it if i knew she was going though.
But as i see it, many things could go wrong, they could get into a row on holiday (brother and ex) , and my daughter could end up in a precarious position.
My ex (her mother ) dont and have never had anything formal written down as far as child responsibility is concerned. But I do pay her maintenance every month, and see my daughter on a regular basis, but less than i did before i had a new partner. Probably once a week now. Do i have any control in this matter? Can I stop her going abroad with her brother and co.....Thanks
I can understand your worries, although I would point out that his children are going to be their as well so there has to be quite a high level of parental supervision all round, I would hope.
Have you spoken to your ex about this? It may be that she isn't too happy about the situation either but thinks you are agreeing to it - it certainly is worth having a conversation with her if you are able to do so.
Hi there
As it stands, as you were married to the mother you have Parental Responsibility and if you don't agree with your daughter being taken abroad then you can refuse to give permission.
You need to discuss this with the mother and let her know that you will not give permission. If you cant talk to the mother about it, or she ignores your wishes, I would contact the passport office and make it clear that you have not given permission for you daughter to be taken out of the country.
If you hold the passport then you are in a better position. The only down side is that your daughter will probably be upset that you have prevented her from going, perhaps you could arrange an alternative holiday during the summer holidays.