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Hi everyone it's good to see us Dads are sticking together!
A quick breakdown of what's happened. So insplit up with my ex back in 2013 and since married and have a new family. Since the separation she's been hard work to deal with. Even trying to shut me out of my son's life and replace me with her partner. When in the UK lived 150 miles away and which I regularly wpuld make the trip 4 times in a weekend to see my boy. Never any help.
She moved away for a couple of years so I didn't have to pay child maintenance. Now she's back and day 1 of being back in the UK she's telling me she's enforcing it even after being out of the UK earning a tax free salary with free accomodation. Until she leaves the country next year. I once was employed and I was paying full whack plus all the travel costs and even for a time I was paying over nearly double the child maintenance. Silly I know.
Now basically I would like some advice. I am a director of a limited company. I pay myself enough so me and my family can live. Wife and 2 step kids and my own child. I will be having to do the journeys again as she clearly makes the statement that she won't help me see my son.
Is it still possible to pay yourself the minimum wage and dividends. What will be assessed by child maintenance?
She's had so much money out of me. She doesn't need it. Even in the UK she works and has no bills to pay no mortgage and is on a good wage.
I'm not trying to get out of it at all. I pay in many others ways for my son and have been doing for years. All she's after is the money. Anything to cripple me.
Thanks for reading
Hi There,
Anything that you pay yourself will be make up part of your assessment, if it is liable for income tax, as far as I am aware dividends are liable for income tax
GTTS
Was this a private arrangement or through CSA/CMS or courts? If it wasn't a private arrangement, then there is the potential that you could be liable for arrears, unless she closed the case when she left the country.
It went through cms however she left for a country out of Remo so I doubt have to pay maintenance. Plus it was discussed in court. So I know that can't happen.
I'm not sure about this - REMO is generally used to enforce payments when the paying parent is abroad, I'm not sure that this is relevant if the receiving parent is outside UK. If there is a case open with CMS, then the payments may still be liable. It might be worth checking with CMO (Child Maintenance Options) to see if they can clarify this further.
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