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Hi All,
Sorry if this has been asked before but I`m slightly confused.
Been paying maintenance for 15 years, always on time, never missed.
My daughter is 17 and was about to take her A-levels in May then off to Uni in Sept this year, with covid 19 the exams have been cancelled and she will receive a grade based on assessment, so she has left sixth form essentially and won`t return. She is with me most of the time these days anyways and I give her money etc directly as well (of course I`m her dad!)
I have not sent the usual maintenance payment to her mum on 1st April, am I wrong to think my commitments (to her mum) are over ? had the first contact from her mum in literally 10 years today chasing me for the April payment.
I`m not trying to score point, nothing like that, I just don`t honestly see why after 15 years of full support I should carry on giving money to my ex, she has a completely new life no issue there so I`m done right ???
Thanks for any advice
hi,
i think your right to stop payments. if your ex has issues, you can give her this info:
Child maintenance payments usually stop when the child reaches 16 (or 20 if they're in full-time education up to A-level or equivalent). Child maintenance can also stop if, for example: the child stops being eligible for Child Benefit, or the parent being paid stops being the child's main carer.
Thank you.
I`m not trying to be difficult, a few more months of paying won`t kill me but after 15 years I feel enough is enough. I`m funding my daughter directly, pay for her car and costs , university costs etc so not like she`s going without.
Thanks again, just wanted some other views
Stay Safe !
On a similar theme...my 18 year old daughter has been studying at college for the last 2 years but because of the COVID crisis she will not be returning to finish off her last year....grades going to based on assignments etc.
She turns 19 in September and is looking to get an apprenticeship.
I know that my payments would stop in September anyway...do i have to keep paying up to then?
Are you paying through CMS or a court order or just a private arrangement?
If it's CMS, then I would try to speak to them to see what the situation is. If it's a court order, then it would be on the terms of the order unless you went back to court to vary it. If it's a private arrangement, then you could just stop paying - your ex would have to open a case with CMS to get it restarted, and I doubt that it would happen in time. You could suggest to your ex that the money now goes to your daughter.
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