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Hi everyone,
I'm looking for advice regarding child maintenance.
My son turns 18 in April 2020 and I am hoping to be able to stop paying my ex. I don't have a well paid job, but work long hours. My ex agreed not to go to the CSA as long as I paid her what she needed every month. These amounts are average £120 per month on top of £100 per month I already pay out of my wages. I have to 'borrow' the extra £120 from my Mother which is causing problems. My ex is in full time employment, and my son now earns money as an apprentice engineer. I can't afford to see a solicitor. Does anyone please have any information, experience, advice?
I also have a daughter who is now 23 and went to university without major financial help.
I look forward to hearing from anyone!
Thanks in advance.
Roop
hi,
you could use this calculator to work out how much you should be paying for your son
https://www.gov.uk/calculate-child-maintenance
a post i found on mumsnet:
I got child maintenance for as long as I was entitled to child benefit.
When my son started his apprenticeship the child benefit stopped as it wasn't considered non advanced education. Non advanced would be going to college to re sit school exams eg.
My son managed to come to an agreement with his dad that he continued to pay the maintenance direct to him for the first year of his apprenticeship.
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what you can do is speak to cm options: Child Maintenance Options
Telephone: 0800 083 4375
speak to them for advice on this.
Thank you very much for your reply. I will make enquiries.
Have a great Christmas.
Roop
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