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New to the forum but hopefully someone can give me a steer. I've never seen the child I've been paying CSA/CMS for since his birth in Aug 2004. The CMS has upped my payment from £500 to £850 a month - and TBH, after 19 years I've got the [censored] with it.
I've appealed their calculations but to no avail. I have never had any contact with the child or his mother since birth so am clueless whether I should even still be paying anything.
How do I confirm if I should still be paying the "child" when CSA won't engage and I have no knowledge of whether he is working, in education or eligible in any way whatsoever.
All I have is a direct pay that I will not increase and willing to give up my job and change my income to £0 on principal alone.
As a "summer born child" my thoughts are that this will be his last school year and with a term ending July - which I intend to be my last payment.
So my problem is that I'm [censored] sure that as I have a Direct Pay, the CMS will do nothing to check or validate the requirement for me to pay and will attempt to enforce the ridiculous £850/month. The question to the forum is whether anyone has experienced of a similar situation and how can I challenge, verify or check whether I have a legal obligation to pay?
Thanks for any help
I am in almost an identical situation, with a child allegedly born in Dec 2005.
They have been stealing from my salary 750 pounds per month for the last 10 years.
I've been ignored and now just accept that I will continue to be stolen from.
I'm in a very similar position. I get 750 stolen from me every month. I have no idea who this person is or her spawn.
@rippedoff4years perhaps you could ask for a DNA test to be carried out. Are you sure that its your child?
The only correspondence I've ever received 11 years ago, was that someone I've never heard of was making a claim for a 9 Yr old child (age at that time). I thought it was a spoof.
Deductions from my salary ever since. 750 per month.
I've not received anything since and I have no idea who to speak to or do anything. I destroyed the initial correspondence and have just got use to it.
I wrote to the CSA at the time and was ignored.
Hi,
You could ring CMS and ask to check if child benefit case still open. If open they will expect you to carry on paying.
Thanks for your reply. When I call them, they are unable to identify me, as I'm now living in a motorhome and have no fixed abode.
The last time I tried them, I started to shake and had a panic attack that led to me vomiting. I just need to accept this as an additional tax to my salary.
Thank you, anyway.
My daughter has just turned 17 and is not in education due to mental health issues since 16. Her mother claims to still be able to claim child benefit for her as she is registered with Connexions which helps parents of children with MH issues.
Do I have to keep paying maintenance?
If so, when can I stop? Will it be on her 18th birthday?
Thanks
hi, if your paying through CMS, they will expect you to keep paying maintenance as long as child still qualifies for child benefit.
hi, found some info on this. It’ll either be a 20 week extension or their 18th birthday, whichever happens first.
https://revenuebenefits.org.uk/pdf/CH299_2011.pdf
You could get extended Child Benefit for up to 20 weeks if your child is 16 or 17, has left approved education or training, and has either:
- registered for work, training or full-time education with a ‘qualifying body’ (for example, a careers service or Connexions)
The extension to Child Benefit will stop:
• at the end of the extended benefit period (20 weeks from
the date the young person leaves full-time non advanced
education or approved training), or
• when the young person reaches age 18 during the
extended benefit period.
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