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hiya
I'm a newbie to the site and would like some advice
This has probably come up before but I would like to know what CSA should be used for
I currently pay £300 pcm on CSA, on top of that I'm paying for my daughter to do DoE, plus I'm paying for her school trip abroad
My ex is now threatening to stop visits if i dont pay for my daughters passport - my question, should this be paid out of the CSA
Hope yo hear from you soon
Cheers
Tommo
Hi Tommo
To be honest you are paying the set amount through CSA and anything more than that is entirely your option to do so,as far as I am aware the payment for the passport would not come out of your Daughters monthly CSA payment,unfortunately and annoyingly us dads do not have a say what our maintenance is spent on.
Would it be possible to sit down with your ex and suggesting you go half each on the passport?? Not fair at all though that she is threatening to stop contact if you don't pay for the passport because you are already contributing more than is set by the CSA which is commendable by the way.
Maintanance covers the bringing up of your child, anything over and above is discretional.
Your former should not be threatening to reduce contact based on finance.
Can you get it in writing from her that she is threatening to reduce contact based on this as if you can then use it in court as it would not be looked upon very well and would go against her.
Regards,
Dave
I agree with the guys... You are being more than fair paying for her school trip abroad...it's a tough one because you don't want your daughter to go without these things but are being held to ransom if you don't!
If the situation doesn't improve and she continues to make these kinds of demands with threats to stop contact then I would consider going to mediation to try and sort this out... Dave mentions court but this should always be the very last resort. ...however if nothing else works its sometimes inevitable.
Start keeping a diary and keep a record of everything concerning the mother, this may come in useful if you need to take it further.
Good luck
Thanks for the advice guys - really appreciate it
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