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I have 5,3 and 1 year old (pretty much 2)
Current schedule;
MON: They stay over with my ex
TUES: They stay over with my ex
WES: They stay over with me
THUR: They stay with me until 6:30pm and then stay at my ex’s.
FRI: They stay over with me
SAT: They stay over with me
SUN: They stay with the ex
I would like them to stay on the Thursday night because they are with me anyway. Plus I feel it’s more beneficial to them as they are fed, bathed and ready for bed by that time.
Because my ex works alternating Wed/Sat as well as Thur/Fri I suggested that I have them Wed to Fri and the Saturdays she has work.
Over the year this would be 50/50.
I’m also able to have them during half terms on my days as I would take annual leave or arrange childcare.
I’ve tried a mediator but she refused it.
I’m now going through solicitors but have yet to have my first session with them.
Originally she opposed the idea because she said she didn’t want to not see the kids for 4 days ok the weeks she works a Saturday.
However, it turns out she is worried about losing my child maintenance.
What do you think my chances are of getting 50%?
Some side note.
1. Have proof of me lending her more money in addition to child maintenance.
2. On two occasions when she was meant to pick them up she asked if I could drop them as she drunk too much the night before. After being questioned about this she was willing to pick them up. Obviously I refused and dropped them off.
3. She currently has a boyfriend that lives 20 miles away, so she is spending a ton on petrol seeing him.
4. She has said he might look after all 3 children as well as his two children on some Saturdays. I’m not happy with this.
Hi,
How far do you live from ex? If local and you can manage school runs, then you may stand good chance of getting 50/50 arrangements. Be careful with solicitors. Costs can easily go into several thousands by time court case is over. You may be better off self representing, with right guidance.
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