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Hi
I've previously paid through Child Maintenance for my son but myself and ex came to an agreement around a year ago to close the case and I would just pay her directly (as I had through CM).
I've not missed any payments but she has decided to go back through Child Maintenance probably to get a recalculation on my earnings I assume.
The timing of this has meant she would ordinarily be getting a payment this week which she still wants, but I have not been in receipt of the new calculated payment.
I could pay her what I was paying her anyway and top up if required but a little reluctant too given she instigated this and wants to follow due process. To be clear she is in no way reliant on the money by her own admission so my son isn't going to 'go eithout' for the short period of time.
I'm aware that the calculation is likely to include arrears for the time that the claim was opened so it should all be covered off in that way.
Probably a little stubborn on my part but I've been caught in the past with CSA payment dates and ex refusing to acknowledge the money already sent
What are peoples thoughts? I think I'm within my rights but don't want her to instigate a late payment claim or taking from employer as mentioned I've never missed a payment on time before.
Thanks
hi,
I think it's better to keep paying until CMS send you the new payment plan, then follow that.
Have you been notified that the CMS has opened a case? If so, my personal opinion is that you stop paying via the private agreement effective the date the case was opened as CMS will make you pay from that date, and you can explain that to your ex.
@actd Hi, Yes I had had a letter but they also then rang for me same information.
Ive provided it and they indeed told me not to pay anything until I received the calculation which I had two days later.
Very efficient!
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