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Hi
I am brand new to this site and came to it via a 'useful organisations' paragraph on a 'Pay your child maintenance arrears or face legal action notice' received yesterday. I am writing in the hope that someone can help.
I am 2 boys, aged 15 and 17. The eldest lives with me(since January) and the youngest splits his time between me and his mother, approximately 50/50. Both are still in full time education. I now receive child benefit for the eldest and she receives it for the youngest. She now pays me £19 per week for the eldest. In September of last year she had not paid an accumulated(for a whole year) bill from the school for bus fares, music lessons, school clothes etc. This amounted to £4820.00 which I paid in order to enable the boys to continue at school. This was with her agreement. I suspect my mistake was paying it direct to the school instead of to her. She was fully aware that this was a voluntary contribution.
I have now been asking continuously of the CSA to count this as a voluntary contribution but they have consistently ignored this and yesterday I received this demand from the CSA advising or legal action or bailiffs.
I am at my wits end.
Seperately(probably because I have now woken up to fighting fire with fire) I know that my ex-wife owns 2 rental properties in a certain area but I don't know the addresses. How on earth do I find out?
Thank you for listening.
Hi
I'm afraid that the payment probably is classed as voluntary, though the payment for education might be deductible (ie the music lessons themselves) so it might be a matter of trying to get some of it accepted - unfortunately, it's late in the day to fight it by the sound of it. However, you could let them take legal action and argue the point in a court, you might get more success there. I would google the available powers of bailiffs - if they haven't entered the property on a previous occasion, then you might be able to refuse them entry (I think court bailiffs may be different to those used directly by the CSA) and if you don't invite them in (which means you don't open a door or window when they are there, and speak to them through the letterbox or from an upstairs window), then they may be unable to do anything. As I said, google that to check it.
With regards to the properties - is there a particular reason you need to know the addresses? She should be declaring this as income to HMCRS and if she is, then CSA have access to this information. If not, as long as you have reasonable evidence, you could report her to for tax evasion.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to respond.
In respect of the properties I need to know the addresses for evidence.
Ah, I don't think there's a way - here's the info (and why you aren't allowed to search)
The inland revenue would be able to I think, it's a matter of persuading them that she's evading tax. It's possible the CSA may be able to do the same.
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