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Just curious who else has a private arrangment with there ex and pays directly into the bank and do you send them a message every time you put it in like "hello the moneys in" my ex has become rude and no longer acknowledges it or replys "thanks" is there a less awaward way I can't do this for 18 years same text message every week [censored]!!
You can set up a standing order and reference it as child maintenance for xxxx. You wouldn't get an acknowledgment though, just knowing that the money is getting paid on time and you can prove that it has been paid (hence the reference to child maintenance) if the situation ever arises.
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Hi There,
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I agree with Mojo, send the money in a transfer referenced child maintenance and then you don't need to send any txt and get annoyed if she doesn't reply, you could continue to send the message if you wanted too, and I think it's a nice touch myself, even if she doesn't reply, at least you know she has been told.
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i know it sounds silly but its hard to imagine me texting her every week for 18 years or so lol will be in my 40s currently im 29
Agree with what's been said above. You can either do bank transfers or standing orders with the CM ref and you won't need to text but will have proof of payment.
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