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Hi All,
First post here. Cutting the long story short, I've paid the mother of my girl (10) every month without fail and now because she cannot get a mortgage because we're on a private agreement, she's going through CMS. I've offered more money but she wants to go down this route.
She's started a claim and because they could to get hold of me (rang me at 3:55pm, did not leave a message and their offices close at 4pm) they've said the claim is now on hold for 3 months. This all sounds a bit wild to me. She's now asking monthly payments but will the CMS back date from when she started the claim?
I literally cant afford to pay her and then have a monthly fee come out of my bank as I'm moving in to a new house soon as my own and can't risk more money leaving my account than it needs to be.
I appreciate any help or advice.
Thanks
hi,
it's odd that they state the claim is on hold for 3 months. this means that after 3 months, they will expect you to start paying maintenance through them, and as case has been on hold for 3 months, there is high chance they will add 3 months worth of arrears onto your monthly maintenance, meaning you pay more each month. I suggest to be very proactive with them. phone them or have a web chat ASAP.
would recommend you join this group for paying parents. lot of experienced members there: https://www.facebook.com/groups/239699060076601
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