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My 12 year old daughter has come to live with me and my partner, my 15 year old son has chose to stay with his mum due to school location. I know theres 2 sides to every story but my ex wife is a truly horrible and twisted person. The things she has said and done are too vast to document here.
So, we have one child each. She has demanded that we still go through CMA. I have to pay £85 PER WEEK....she pays £10 per week. They are a 2 income house hold. We only have my income. My wage fluctuates week to week. My assessment was made based on me being on £1000 per week. But this is not the case, far from it. I I havnt been on that amount for a long time. We are struggling massively. I am currently working away from home n this week have been unable to even buy my dinner and I'm overdrawn.
How is this fair? My daughter goes to her mums every other friday and Saturday. I have my son every other friday an Saturday and 1 night in the week. My ex wife WILL NOT contribute to any extra cost for our daughter including uniform, hobbies (gymnastics is £50 per month, school trip £250).. absolutely nothing. What can we do? This is so unbelievably upsetting. Can anyone offer any advice or help?
Unfortunately, the amounts are assessed separately based on you income and your ex's - if you have proof that your income is 25% less than the figure they are using, then go back to them and ask them to reassess. I presume your ex is on a low income from the figure she is paying you.
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