Any opinions or advice appreciated
I separated from wife 6 years ago, we have one daughter (11) who I see regularly.
We have always arranged maintenance privately using CMS calculations and as she owed me money deducting that monthly from total monthly payment.
last 18 months child arrangements changed but never reviewed maintenance until recently.
below is a 4 weekly breakdown of our arrangements, this repeats every 4 weeks for the year. On top I also take daughter two week holiday. In total I have daughter 176 nights and day to day care on my days.
4 week period totals
Mum - 15 nights / 12 days
Dad - 13 nights / 16 days
I raised this with ex who argues that I don’t have equal care day to day care but I feel I do after doing full breakdown of exact days and nights I care for my daughter.
any medical appointments or school sickness on my days is my responsibility as are providing school lunches, uniform, shoes, food and paying for activities when with my daughter.
any advice on shared day to day care is welcome
i don’t have any court orders as it has been all privately arranged. Just exploring next options and if CMS would treat our arrangement as equal day to day care.
hi,
I think for now you can just use the calculator and adjust the maintenance according to number of nights you have child if you like. I wouldn't recommend CMS, they like to ask to see a court order confirming day to day care etc. would probably lead to more conflict between you and ex.
theres lot of support here for paying parents: https://www.facebook.com/groups/239699060076601