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Hi,
First of all i would like to say thank you for taking the time to read my first post.
It seems I'm very lost at what do with this whole situation.
So to give you abit of history, I broke up with my ex around 4 years ago due to being abused by her. I ended up receiving a phone call off her not long after we split saying she was pregnant and she wasn't sure if it was mine as she had been cheating on me.
I never heard anything from her until the baby was born and that was via a letter from CSA demanding payment from me. I refused to pay the csa as i didn't believe I was the father.
To cut the story short, there has been 3 attempts to have a DNA test done - Paid for by myself through the CSA. Every time she cancels the dna before the date but this time she has closed the CSA case down and I haven't heard anything since (Around a year)
Unfortunately she keeps making comments on Social media about how i am not around even though she will not let me prove that i am the father.
Its got to the ppoint now where its keeping me up at night and im sat expecting the next CSA case letter through the post.
Now my question is - Can she re open the csa case if she decided to?
What are my legal rights in this matter - has she missed her chance to sort this?
Thanks
alex
Hi
As far as I know, she can open a case at any point, but you have the right to ask for a DNA test at that point, and if it was proved that you were the father, then maintenance would not be backdated, it would date from the date the case was opened and closed if the DNA test proved negative.
I would give two pieces of advice - first speak to CMS to see if there is anything you can do with regards to repeated claims, especially since shes refused a DNA test and close the case, it may well be that what I have said above is not correct if she's already refused the test.
Secondly, I would block her on facebook and all social media, that way you simply don't worry about what is being said. If you have mutual friends, then if they are good friends with you, they will know what she is saying isn't true, and if they don't believe you, then I'd seriously consider blocking them to.
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