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Thanks guys
Quick update,
I have come to an informal arrangement with my partner,
I will be paying the CMS amount directly to her bank account, she can do what she wants with it, I dont care I know what it's for and it's up to her to spend it that way.
Re: the extra I want to pay, we have set up a bank account for my son, but this is linked to her, I will be sending the extra amount to this account, she will provide me with a bank statement each month showing what's gone in and what's gone out.
I have clearly explained to her Direct Debits will need to clearly referenced and any money going out will require receipts as evidence especiall where she transfers money from his account to hers.
If at any point the bank statements stop coming or there are discrepancies, I will set up a bank account for my son i control and will pay the extra money into this, she will then have to provide me with details for DD that I can verify and I will only release money from this account upon provision of relevant receipts.
After a little initial bickering and arguing she has agreed to the above as being a reasonable solution, protecting my interests, those of my son and removing a potential future conflict point between us.
Many thanks for all your help
That sounds like a relatively stress free solution.
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