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Similar happened to me 16 years ago. GF claimed that she had DNA proof I was father taken from a hair she pulled whilst I was asleep. Apparently DNA can be obtained from the bulb root of a hair. However, she refused to have another test done.
Even now she claims I am the father. However, I see no resemblance when I look at photos. Her excuse for not having a test after all these years is it will make it difficult for me to explain to the child where I have been for the last 16 years. Yeah right!
I was 'tricked' 26 years ago (VERY long story to list all events then and since).
I would urge you, as someone (mostly) out the other side, to drop the court action. Even if you win (not guaranteed), it will be a hollow victory - it won't change the past.
You have to move on the best way you can and try your hardest not to dwell. I know every maintenance payment will feel like a twist of the knife, but you have to make your own life the absolute best you can. As the Frank Sinatra quote goes, 'The best revenge is massive success'.
If she's the type to screw someone over, it's likely she won't end up making a good life for herself. I think your biggest problem would be if you wanted access to the child - because a vindictive ex in that situation has the ability to make life very difficult.
Best wishes - and hope you're okay ;o)
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