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You might as well shagged her unless she was a right minger
Hi
I've read about a similar case in the press many years ago (I cannot find the link), however unless you progress via the legal route (you may need specialist legal advice from a fertility solicitor, yes they exist!!) then there is very little you can do. You cannot blame CMS for their approach as they cannot just take your word for it, it needs to have been determined via the legal route and then they can make a judgement on what to do.
Good Luck.
Hello johndoe,
I really do feel for you and how the deception of this woman has made you feel.
I think you should concentrate on yourself and consider getting help from both your G.P. and a qualified, registered psychologist to talk through the issues you have, how you view them and how they are making you feel. If you can afford to I would pay privately to see the psychologist.
Your future isn't "bleak and hopeless", you feel it is at present but you can work through this and you will.
People on here will support you and I am very much an advocate for the Samaritans who are available 24/7 to talk to if at times you feel really overwhelmed.
Resurrecting this thread again to provide an update.
As you'll have seen from my previous comments, I ultimately was deemed liable and payments have continued to date. The police had started an investigation (for sexual assault, but also considered theft and other offences) but recently suspended the investigation following guidance from the CPS. I am still in touch with the police and the CPS to discuss a way forward with criminal prosecution.
I have started a civil claim against my ex-partner (with various causes of action). Legal costs are mounting and my ex-partner has instructed a particularly aggressive and obstructive (and seemingly ill-equipped) solicitor to represent her and so it looks like this will be a long and tortuous process on both sides, with only her lawyer profiting from all of this in the short/medium term. Ultimately of course, I hope that some form of justice will prevail, either through criminal prosecution or financial restitution, or both.
My mental health continues to suffer, but some of the helplines have indeed helped, and I have obtained good counselling and therapy.
Thanks for the update and I can understand how draining it must be for you. Try to keep going with the counselling and do take good care of yourself
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