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YODA,
Thank you for all that I really appreciate all this help. I can sit down and go through that all and try and work out the best for the kids using this. Slowly but surly Ill get through the mine field.
Thanks.
Rich,
Sorry to hear that I hope things improve for your situation. Its [censored] horrible and I'm finding that nothing sets you up or prepares you for any of this. Im just so glad I found this site.
Your very welcome. Its daunting, but everything will work out fine in the end.
Any questions shout, and once again, try your best to not get the CMS involved.
I would disagree to some extent - CMS are good if yours is a simple case, and it stops there being any doubt about whether you are paying or not (if you don't use them, you must pay be bank transfer and quote "child maintenance" so it's clear what the payment is for). It costs £20 to open a case, and that's all they charge - you definitely want a CMS case if there's a possibilty that you could have child maintenance settled by the courts.
ACTD,
Right I understand,, so better to be proactive with CMS if things turned for the worst later on down the line. but if an agreement is drawn up would that be taken into consideration by them.. I only ask as I had tried to work it all out before ,,, and wasn't to far away but once she had gone to a solicitor, she came back with " that's not a true figure" and maybe so but I was only trying to do the right thing and have something to offer. So yeah I get what your saying .. be pro active with this.
Thanks again.
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