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My Ex husband has own business, pays himself min wage. CSA stated he only had to pay £8 pw for our two children. He gets £3000+ pcm tax free as he pays himself min wage,dividends and recieves tax credits. He tells me he pays above and beyond what is req of him as I don't give him what he wants. He has alt wkends Fri-Mon am,half hols, one night in wk for tea and regular phone contact. I work part time and pay for before school club Mon to Fri. I am not entitled to legal aid,but ex husband is based on his min wage! He is taking me back to court because he wants alt wkends extended from Thur-Tue, plus following Thur overnight s well. He lives over an hour away. He told me it is his right to get more access and he will not stop until he gets it,he has even indicated he wants full residency as he has a girlfriend to help out with the care and she will look after them if she is ill! So it isn't just you guys that are being treated unfairly. I understand what the majority of you are saying because I have experienced similiar. Hope you guys get things sorted for the kids sakes x
hi booboo - without looking back over your posts, have you gone for a variation on the CSA assessment - this doesn't cost anything as it's all done through the CSA and tribunals. It certainly sounds like a lifestyle inconsistent with income, and possibly a diversion of income. Ask the CSA for information on this - it's likely that the will refuse the appeal, in which case you then appeal this and it goes to a tribunal where they will be likely to take a more balanced view of his total income.
I did, but they raised it to £19pw. We have a private arrangement though the court which is not a lot but better than nothing. His lifestyle is a luxurious one, he took kids to a spa resort with his girlfriend and her son last year in Barcelona. I sneaked a peak at the website and saw the prices,it was over £4,000. I took the kids on a beach holiday in this country for £120, my son said he enjoyed it more. Money isn't everything, but I certainly don't like the ex using it as a weapon : (
I agree that money isn't everything, but he has an obligation to pay, and I'm against playing dirty tricks to substantially avoid paying maintenance by either side (having been the 'victim' of this myself). I'll move this to finance thread shortly as I think it needs to be separate, but I think it may be worth pursuing further.
this just highlights how rubbish the system is - reasonableness doeasnt come into play and the real injustice is that the system fails the unreasonable - what reforms are there and when will they happen, we can cite these instances but the real issue is that things need to change and who will take charge of these reforms, F4justice I hear arent actively campaigning but when they did it made people aware so things moved along but do have forums to lobby - do Dad.info and can they take these forward to the right people? It makes me think that its better to act unreasonably just to come to a reasonable solution and that bonkers
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