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Good afternoon
Having recently split from my ex, and to avoid the CMS route she set out what she deemed was a fair anount to pay each month, her choice, with the amount and how is was to be paid etc, all set out in a txt from her that I agreed to.
Set it up and been paying on the button and in full as agreed for the last 3 months.
Cuple of weeks ago she kicks off over something irrelevant to money, then several days later get a letter on doormat from CMS that I will have to pay through them
Anyone experienced this where the individual laid out all terms for private arrangement only for sometime later to decide to go through CMS, can they do this ?
Any feedback would be appreciated
hi,
yes unfortunately they can take the CMS route any time, even if you already have a private arrangement that's working well.
From the sound of it, you are fortunate that you didn't pay a lump sum up front to avoid a monthly payment as CMS disregard this as well. The advantage of CMS is that the amount they set is all you need to pay, so if she wants more, then it's entirely at your discretion to pay it or not, and the CMS amount covers everything, so she can't claim extra for clothes, holidays etc, so you can push back if she asks for extra.
Thanks for coming back
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