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Hi, new guy here.
I currently have 3 children that I pay maintenance for. 2 through a family-based arrangement with my ex-wife (non toxic relationship) where we based the amount on CMS calculator. I then have 1 with an ex girlfriend (toxic relationship) who I pay £254 that was arranged through CMS directly.
The calculation was based on me having them for 0 nights per week, so as I understand it I pay the full amount required? I have paid the amount set every month since the claim was made by her. She has now demanded that I pay an additional £350 per month for contributions towards nursery fees (which I cannot afford) or be faced with court action.
What I would like to know is;
- Am I required to pay more than the mandated amount set by CMS? (As I understand it, I do not)
- What grounds would she have to take me to court over this?
I am currently out of the country with work, and due to return to the UK next week where I'll seek some legal advice. However, I just wanted to get a general idea of where I stand with all of this.
Apologies if this has been answered in other threads, but it is stressing me out hard (already been through counselling regarding the ex girlfriend and lack of relationship with child 3).
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
hi,
no you are not legally required to pay more, above the amount set by CMS. It's unlikely she will be able to claim more by applying to court. that only applies to footballers wages etc.
you mentioned seeking legal advice, is this for child contact or CMS? feel free to private message if you need advice.