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Do you have to pay child maintence still to your ex, if she stop you from seeing the kids, and sending abusive messages, as now i started the court procedure she wont let me see or speak to my children, yet she happy to bombared me constantly with abusive text messages. I dont see why i should carry on paying it to her, i sooner put the money in the children trust funds. To pay her money then giving me all this [censored]. I had plans with my kids this weekend too.
What she is doing is wrong, but 2 wrongs don’t make it right either, so yes, you should keep paying, and focus on the court case instead.
Hello sorted 78
All parents do have the responsibility to provide child maintenance for their children even if they have very little, or no contact with them at all. Paying child maintenance will not guarantee you contact with your child and contact arrangements with a child is a separate issue from child maintenance.
It is widely recognised that when both parents take an active role in the child's life (as long as it is safe to do so) it can have a positive impact on the well being of the child. However, it is important not to use access to the child as a bargaining tool for negotiating child maintenance.
If you are the parent who is expected to pay child maintenance and you cannot see your child, you can still contribute to their upbringing by paying child maintenance.
Child Maintenance Options can offer you information about all your options for a child maintenance agreement. They also have some leaflets on their website that may help you resolve the conflicts between you and your ex-partner..
You may also be interested to know the Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) have a website, 'Sorting out Separation'. It aims to make it much easier for separating and separated parents (and childless couples) to find the support they need, when and where they need it, and encourages them to collaborate on a range of issues. The link is http://www.sortingoutseparation.org.uk/
For more information and for a more personalised service, you may wish to visit the Child Maintenance Options website yourself at http://www.cmoptions.org.
Regards
William
If the abuse is constant you can report her to the police for harassment and ask that she be given a warning to cease the abusive behaviour. Once in court you can bring this up, save the texts as they may be helpful to show the court how unreasonable she is being.... I do hope you kept your cool and didn't return the abuse, just dont rise to it!
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