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Hi,
Hello to everyone, I'm hoping that someone may be able to offer some advice for me here?
I have a payment schedule calculated by the CMS and currently pay directly to my Ex. My child is currently 17, soon to be 18 and in college. All payments have been made exactly as prescribed by the CMS, dates, amounts etc. However, my child is now being told by my Ex that she doesn't have enough money to give them to buy clothes, shoes, books etc and that they need to contact me for more...?
I feel that my Ex is taking the CMS payments I am making and using them to support herself and another child she has (nothing to do with me but she won't claim CMS for them) and then using my child against me to gain even more money?
Can anyone offer any suggestions here?
Many thanks.
S.
There isn't an easy solution - your ex is trying it on basically and making you out to be the villain. Your child is old enough to know what is going on - ideally should be involved but the mother is forcing this, that you can explain to your child just how much is being paid out, and also that some of your child's money is actually going to support another man's child. There is no right solution unfortunately - the other option is to bite the bullet and give your child some extra money directly for the next couple of years.
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