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Hi, I have had custody of my daughter for 4 years now, she has just turned 17, I have never asked her mother for a penny until now.
My daughter had a turbulent relationship with her mother and still does, however with college starting I am struggling a bit so asked her to pay me £20 a week, not much I know.
She is willing to go to the CSA about it.
This is my problem, even tho I paid every single month when she was at her mothers we eventually came away from the CSA and at times I paid cash.
Can my ex now tell the CSA I never paid (even tho I did) to get back at me or is the case closed completely??
Thanks in advance
hi,
do you have a court order regarding your daughters custody? if you don't then if your ex tells CMS that the child lives with her, they will most likely believe her until you prove otherwise. your ex could re-open a claim or make a new on. but CMS will only you to pay from the date she made new claim. this is how they usually work. you could ring them and make a claim. it costs £20 to make a new claim. but not sure about reopening a case. might be free.
is the child benefit under your name?
no court order but social took her off her mum and placed her in my custody, I get child benefits so will show this and when I started claiming, also he mum stays 45 miles away so she cant say she lived with her when my daughter was at school where I live
If the boot was on the other foot, she would be on the phone to CMS, so why not call them to open a new claim.
You need to be certain that the case was closed, or that they were notified that your daughter was resident with you at the time. If neither of those is the case, then potentially you are in arrears, and you really don't want to kick a hornets nest.
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