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After 4 years of fighting for better access t9 my son against a mother who has hindered court proceedings every step of the way.
I have made tje choice to stop fighting , not an easy choice o can assure you. And no matter what someone will say to me it wont be as bad as what i think about myself.
I have constantly supplied child maintence over those years 2 of in which i over paid.
I received a letter today threatening me with court and that she wants my name taken of the birth certificate anf that my parental responsibilities should be removed .
My question simply is if this happens am i still responsible to make child maintenance?
I have a child with my now fiancee aswell as 3 step kids and child maintenance really dont seem to rake this into account or have an option on calculator for 0 when it comes to how often you see the child.
Hi there
I'm sorry that you feel unable to continue your struggle to see your son, we don't judge here and you won't get any negative comments... making such a difficult decision must be hard enough.
I would take the letter with a pinch of salt, it is almost impossible to have parental responsibility removed, courts very rarely agree to that and it would have to be something really serious for that to happen.
The only time a parent would no longer be liable for child maintenance, is if the child is adopted, at that point child maintenance would stop.
Any children living with you should be taken into account. Reductions are made if you pay into a pension and also if your child stays with you overnight.
Here's a link to the CMS guidelines, with information about how they calculate child maintenance, including how they take account of other children.
All the best
My son has never been allowed in my home town never mind been allowed to stay over night.
This mother has spread lies and rumours regaeding me my partner and parents. All of which of been disproved yet she is still getting everything her way.
It wss a long back and forward process to walk away. For every time i build a bond and my son refered to me as dad. Contact would then get cancled for weeks and months and bybtime it got back up inwas back tobbeing just calum.
His mum and her parents had him convinced he doesn't have a dad or need one. He has a half sister his mother categorically denies t9 him.
I made the decision for the best interest of my son due to these "care givers" constant bullying and psycological abuse they are putting him through.
Thought it would stop by cllosing the case but yetvshe is still wanting me in court and to chase me with letters.
Hello Boab83
It certainly sounds like a very challenging, and upsetting situation for you to be in at the moment.
With regards to your question - having your name removed from the Birth Certificate would not stop your responsibility to pay child maintenance. In the eyes of the law, it does not matter if you are named on the Birth Certificate or not. As touched on earlier by Mojo, the biological parent's responsibility to pay child maintenance would only cease if the child in question is legally adopted.
You may be interested to know that the Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) have a website, Sorting out Separation. It aims to make it much easier when you are separated to find the support you need, when and where you need it on a range of concerns, including, money, housing, employment, legal and parenting apart. You can view the website at https://www.sortingoutseparation.org.uk/.
Kind Regards
William
Hi There,
As already said having PR removed is very difficult, my story is similar to yours, my ex made things so difficult that I made the decision to stop seeing my son, years later she tried to remove PR, I had a letter from court with a hearing date.
I went along and they didn't want to know, they told her that they don't remove PR unless there are extreme reasons, I wouldn't worry too much about that side of things as even if she did try she wouldn't get very far.
GTTS
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