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Hi there
Just some general advice if possible.
I separated from my wife three years ago. Naively I struck a private arrangement, and paid her £550 a month initially, without researching how much I should be paying for the upkeep of one 3 year old. This was out of a take home salary that only amounted to £1100, so I slid into debt trying to maintain this.
At the start of this year I just became aware how much I had paid in overpayments, and stopped paying. She then pursued me via the CSA, and obviously this is treated as a new case and they can't help with the fact I've done everything I financially can previously.
I've appealed for reasonable behaviour from my ex-wife just because I can barely support my daughter when she is with me, face financial ruin. She's actually a successful teacher and head of department, so does earn well herself, but doesn't care that my daughter's dad is literally sinking.
It's all my own fault at first, as I didn't research what I should be paying, due to being caught up in the emotive aspect, but has anyone encountered the likes of this, and know if there is anything I can do? I can prove all the monthly vast payments made in the private arrangement. I basically make it I have given her £9000 too much based on CSA figures. I'm not looking to retrieve all the money, as I'm glad I did everything I could, but just some happy medium so I can live.
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