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When I split from my ex I paid directly to her for first 2 years but then one day I got letter from CSA saying I had to pay directly to them and had a bill for the 2 years I had left. After a lot of phone calls as I had nothing signed by my ex I had to pay.
I was contracting so my pay was different each month and when they did my working out for my monthly payment it was for A very large amount but as my ex was not working I found out that not all the money was going to her but to cut a long story short when my son turned 18 I found out I had over paid by 16k they then offered to contact my ex and ask for it back me and my ex had not spoken in over 10 years and I had not seen my son in this time to because she made up lies about me and i coundnt afford to tale her to court due to the 2k CSA bill I paid each month.
My son is now 25 and due to an illness we had a DNA swab taken and I have found out he is not mine....
It had knocked me for six and I went without to make sure the CSA was paid and money went to my son. But I want her to pay it back
She won’t pay it back. Your best bet is to let go. I’m sorry, what she did was completely wrong.
I agree with the above, I'm afraid -you could try contacting your MP to get them to raise a complaint about the overpayment as that was presumably down to their negligence. It's only this overpayment that you can try for though, not the fact that you were paying when he wasn't actually your biological son as child maintenance is liable to be paid until a DNA test proves otherwise, and it's never backdated to before that date.
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