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Right finally won my court case back in August and my 12 year old is now living with me.. But for it to be finalized then I had to agree to fetch and carry my son backwards and forwards to the mothers.
The reason I agreed to this was because she said she was working til 6pm on a Saturday which was the agreed over night stay and 5pm to 8pm every alt Wednesday.
She said the train time travel back would of been to late for my son and she felt unsafe travelling alone all that way. 27 miles!
So I work 7am 6pm Saurday drive 30 mile journey home collect my son then do another 27 miles there and 27 miles back after I have dropped him around 7.30pm.
I get home around 9pm. Yes I agreed to this. But I thought that she would be paying maintenance plus out of pocket expenses.
The worse is a Wednesday I work to 4pm drive him to his mums for 5pm and sit in Tesco for 3 hours as I cant afford to do 4 journeys that night.
Thing is she left her job 2 days after the court case as she new I would be claiming all this from CSA. She now is on full benefits and I cant get a penny.
I asked her for petrol. NO.
I asked her to collect my son on Saturday morning she said no I cant afford it.
I emailed court and updated them judge response was you need to sort it between yourselves???.
I called CSA they said I cant claim OUT OF POCKET EXPENSES.
It costs me 130.00 in fuel a month alone just getting him to his mums and back.
I have called social services cafcass no one has any answers for me so hopefully someone on here can.
Hi There,
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I'm not 100% sure but I think you should be able to apply back to court for a variation to the original order, possibly asking for a contribution to the travel costs.
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Hopefully someone else would be able to confirm this.
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GTTS
I think you are correct - the CSA won't add to maintenance for your costs, it's not something they deal with, so you would need to go back to the court for this.
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