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Hi, new to this so I'm guessing I'm doing the right thing.
My sons mother is thinking of going back to work for an extra day each week and putting my son in a nursery. She wants me to pay half the costs but I'm not sure it's down to me. Hes 20 months old and I have been paying maintenance since he was born. He stays at mine for 52 nights a year. I was also wondering if she could get help from the government for the costs? She bought me out of our house and took over the mortgage with her father. would his wage be taken into account if she did want to claim for nursery costs?
Hope someone can help.
Thanks
Dan
Hi there
She will be entitled to government help of 15 hours a week once he reaches the age of 2. I don't believe her fathers salary would be taken into account when claiming for a free nursery place. Sure Start should be able to advise on this, or the Health Visitor.
As far as you being responsible for half the nursery costs, as you pay maintenance this is all you are required pay. Some parents that have a private arrangement for maintenance come to an agreement about extras but it discretionary.
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