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I need some advice!
I'm new to this website and only got told sites like this existed yesterday.
Basically, after 8 years..me and my partner split up. Just after Christmas when money is always tight. good timing i know. So i go live with my sister and her partner, who's house is a construction site (newly brought renovation project)
After a few weeks my car breaks and I struggle to get to work, so i get suggested a room by my ex with a guy i know renting it out. He is selling his house so its not permanent its just long enough for me to finish saving for a flat of my own.
Right if your still with me this is the problem...
The guy who owns the house isn't there half the time due to work and staying with his partner and has said i can have the kids stay with me sometimes. My ex has given my a list of dates each month that ill HAVE to have the kids, even on week nights when i'm working full time 8am-5:30pm. Not that i have a problem with that...but here's the thing....i asked the guy if its ok and he says yes but only till he has a tenant in the other spare room.
I tell her this but she doesn't care. shes pushing for me to have them all those dates every month no matter what and its not her problem.
Am I over reacting to this? I feel like even if im on a mates sofa (if this guy sells his house before ive got the deposit for my flat together) she'll still make me have the kids?
I still havent managed to get another car yet either
Sorry its confusing i just need some advice
Hi there
You will just have to be firm with her, if it's not appropriate, then she has to accept that, even the court can't make a parent have their child/children more than they are comfortable with, or able to do so.
Would the house owner be able to explain that it's not possible to make arrangements as the situation could change if a tenant is found? Or perhaps a couple of sessions of mediation might help you to find a solution.
All the best
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