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Yes. I’m going to start proceedings for an arrangement order. Because she knows this and that cms will give her much less she hasn’t mentioned the money again. But now she’s doing other things to make life awkward. She finally let me see him again and said I would need to give her specific times that we stick to every week. I did that, I gave her specific times and I was meant to have him today. She started texting me in the morning saying she’s got plans so I need to have him later today and won’t be home and that if I can’t have him later, I’ll have to drive nearly an hour to drop him off to her brothers house. When I brought up the fact that she was banging on about structure and can’t stick to it herself she has arranged for someone else to have him today instead. Please note that about a month ago I asked if I could pick him up one hour later and she said no and then didn’t let me see him because I tried to change the time. Seems like this game will be played until a judgement is made. I don’t understand why it’s one rule for me and another for her either
Its best until you get to family court and get a proper child arrangements order to do what she says for now. Contact albeit on her terms is better than nothing at all.
With her hinting at set times it maybe that you will have from now until your court hearing to think of some proposals. I am guessing your child is young which may make things difficult. Nursery/school picks up are always good and making sure you get overnights
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