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I left my wife about 14 months ago. We have a 11 year old daughter.
Since leaving I have been living in a rented single room in a shared house.
My daughter comes over every Friday night ( which she enjoys) but she doesn't want to stay for more than 1 night as it's not a proper home. I need my own place so I can make a new " home" for me and my daughter
The former family home is mortgaged for which I pay the larger share.
Hence the reason I can't afford more than a rented room
Since the split my wife has been living in the house.
My problem is that I cannot move on and buy my own house until I can release some equity from the house.
She has already agreed to sell the house, but said she will only put it on the market if she finds something she wants and her offer on that is accepted.. Then when I ask her how the search is going she keeps insisting that there are no suitable houses out there for her.
We already agreed we could have 65 percent of the equity, so she will have enought to buy a 2 bed cottage or small house which would suit her needs perfectly.
I suspect that either she has no intentions of moving or that she has her criteria for a new house so high that she will never find one .
I don't want it to get bitter between us
But I feel like I now need to start exploring options to do something about moving the situation on.
I'm afraid she simply doesn't have any incentive to move on as she is living in a larger house which is mostly being paid for by you. She also isn't taking selling the house seriously - with the housing market improving in general (depending on your area), the chances of her having an offer accepted on a property (or not being gazumped) is pretty low if yours isn't even on the market.
I'm afraid anything you do is going to inflame the situation because she's going to be worse off than she is now, but you need to put a time limit on how long she has, or come up with another solution (such as she pays the more of the mortgage). Have you started the divorce proceedings yet? If not, that is probably worth doing and getting the property sorted as part of that.
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