[Solved] Need Advice Regarding CSA

I've always had my moments where I've doubted it after what she said. But then people have said he looks like me, then other have said a child can look like numerous people. Then when I think of the lengths she wants to go to, just to get me out of his life for good it really makes me think.

I never got the chance to bond with him, and when we split she kept telling me he hates me because he always cried whenever I picked him up, he didn't know me after all the [censored] that had gone on, but he was still miserable whenever he was with me for months and months until she stopped it again. After everything she has put me through I really want her out of my life for good if I am honest with you. But I know if he is my son then I have a responsibility to him. I have a 16 year old son who is my best mate, comes to the gym with me every day as well. Then there's the the youngest, who is like a stranger, it is really hard and it all depresses me tbh.

I think he's yours man, My ex stopped me seeing my 14 month old for 9 months whilst I battled for her, she was miserable with me for a while but once regular contact was established it's like we have never been apart now it's never to late to build that bond back up, my ex tried all that she only cries around you bollocks with me it's just their way of controlling and belittle you ignore her 🙂

My ex tried all that she's not yours bull**** it's as if they get schooled on how to screw the father of your kid over my ex has a degree in it!

I've just had 3 weeks of peace in 2 years after the final hearing but she's just started being a stupid cow again :/

They are evil twisted creatures pal. I don't know how they can live with themselves. Not all women are like that though, I know a few decent ones out there.

They will regret it sooner or later I pride myself in the fact that I have been honest throughout this whole mess and I can hold my head high and say I've done everything for the benefit of my daughter and I can look her straight in the eye when she's older and say I done all I can 🙂

Yeah man I know not all women are like that there is some good eggs out there 🙂

It's just finding the good eggs amongst all the bad haha. But yeah he will find out the truth when he's older regardless. I will never delete the things she has said to me.

well, I've played the averages and come out on top - out of three marriages, only one was to someone bad. 🙂

I have never been married, and I probably never will now after this, nor have anymore children out of fear of it happening again. She has made my life a living [censored] since 6 months after I met her in 2010. The wort mistake I ever made, and the one I wish I could erase from my life completely.

Hello Walsh

Sounds like you have been through a very difficult and upsetting time. With you having a case with the Government’s statutory scheme you would need to contact them directly to discuss any concerns you have regarding your case or payments. You will find their details on any letters they have sent you or on Gov.uk at https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance.

If you are querying the paternity of your child you may wish to speak with who is dealing with your case to see what the process is. I have included a link with information on DNA testing that you may find useful, https://www.gov.uk/dna-testing-parentage-disagreements.

For more information on the different ways to set up child maintenance and for a more personalised service, you can visit the Child Maintenance Options website at http://www.cmoptions.org.

The DWP have a sorting out separation web-app that you may find useful. It offers help and support to separating and separated families. The link is: www.dad.info/divorce-and-separation/sorting-out-separation.

Regards

William