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[Solved] mothers earnings taken into account

 
(@Scorpio35)
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Hi I am fairly new to the site so any help much appreciated.
My husband currently pays child maintenance for his son to his ex wife which I fully agree with. They used to have a private arrangement which was completely abused by her....He paid nearly £300 a month and she still asked for extras for school trips and shoes etc,plus he couldn't see regularly due to work shifts!
Anyway unfortunately hugs have gone very sour and he now doesn't see his son through no fault of his own and we pay through CSA
Obviously CSA scheme is due to change for some this year and this affects us,however I have a question which hopefully some may be able to assist with....
Unsure of where child leaves at present as at least one house move has taken place since arrangement happened and possibly another. However I have heard on the grapevine that the mother has since had a child with another man but also has started her own online business in addition to part time work? Unsure if this is declared but surely this should be taken into account for the payments my husband makes?
Any help appreciated!

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Topic starter Posted : 29/01/2016 3:48 pm
(@Child Maintenance Consultant)
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Hello Scorpio35

The maintenance payments that your husband makes are his personal contribution to the upkeep of his son. Therefore, it is his income that is taken into account when calculating payments. How much his ex-wife earns or how many children she has in the future has no bearing on that.

If you or your husband would like to receive information about the different ways that maintenance can be set up or to receive a more personalised service, you can contact Child Maintenance Options directly, http://www.cmoptions.org.

The Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) have a web application, ‘Sorting out separation’. It aims to make it much easier for separating and separated parents (and childless couples) to find the support they need, when and where they need it, and encourages them to collaborate on a range of issues. The link is http://www.dad.info/divorce-and-separation/sorting-out-separation

Regards

William

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Posted : 29/01/2016 5:56 pm
(@Scorpio35)
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Hi wiliam
Thanks for the information I really appreciate it. I fully understand and respect the payments my husband makes are towards the upkeep of his child,however as I previously mentioned surely if the mother is bringing in 2 incomes into the home that would have a bearing on how much money she contributes toward upkeep of child. This in turn would then have consequences on husbands payments be it reduced or increased for example if she were to loose an income? Surely the payment should be equal and only contribute towards upkeep of child and NOT the upkeep of the mother??it just seems that the mother is receiving quite a payment £280 a month just to maintain one child? As discussed with friends the gas, electricity, maintenance and to some level food situation of running the home should already be taken into account for by the mother as she would have to do that even if she lived alone so surely the monthly payment can't attribute to that?
Also it would be interesting to see if this would affect child benefit received?

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Topic starter Posted : 29/01/2016 6:21 pm
(@othen)
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Not very fair, is it.
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Posted : 29/01/2016 6:42 pm
(@Scorpio35)
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Not very fair, is it.
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No it isn't!

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Topic starter Posted : 29/01/2016 6:51 pm
(@othen)
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You think that is unfair: my ex wife got £175,000 in cash to buy a house, lives very comfortably on her and her boyfriend's salaries, only has to support my son half the time (he lives with me alternate weeks) but I still have to pay some CM under the curious CSA rules.

Ho hum, we wonder why divorce is such a popular sport ...

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Posted : 29/01/2016 8:37 pm
(@Scorpio35)
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Well sorry to hear that but my husband got left with nothing, she had he house,the child....oh actually she did leave him with £26000 debt to pay off on top off the divorce costs. The only reason he doesn't see his son is because she moved away and won't tell us where they are and she won't let him!

You think that is unfair: my ex wife got £175,000 in cash to buy a house, lives very comfortably on her and her boyfriend's salaries, only has to support my son half the time (he lives with me alternate weeks) but I still have to pay some CM under the curious CSA rules.

Ho hum, we wonder why divorce is such a popular sport ...

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Topic starter Posted : 29/01/2016 8:48 pm
(@othen)
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... not very fair, is it.

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Posted : 29/01/2016 9:45 pm
(@Child Maintenance Consultant)
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Hi Scorpio35

Thank you for your reply post. To clarify, child maintenance is a contribution towards the cost of bringing up a child and this includes not only such items as food and clothing but also it is a contribution towards the home that the child lives in and the associated costs of running that home. With you mentioning that your husband currently pays child maintenance via the Child Support Agency (CSA), he may wish to discuss his concerns with them directly. He can find the contact details for the CSA office that is managing his child maintenance by visiting Gov.uk at https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance/contact.

In terms of a parent's eligibility to receive the Child Benefit, you can find more information on Gov.uk at https://www.gov.uk/child-benefit.

If your husband would like to discuss his contact rights to see his son, he will need to seek legal advice. This is because child maintenance and contact are not link in law. Therefore, any issues around contact will need to be resolved separately, either privately or via a legal route. One organisation that can be contacted is Civil Legal Advice. They provide free and confidential advice to parents that live in England and Wales paid for by legal aid. You can find their contact details at https://www.gov.uk/civil-legal-advice. You can also get in touch with the Citizens Advice Bureau as they provide information on legal topics ( http://www.adviceguide.org.uk).

Kind regard

William

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Posted : 01/02/2016 1:16 pm
 Mojo
(@Mojo)
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If any of the debts she left your husband with were in joint names then he should talk to the CSA about this and ask for a variation.

As far as contact is concerned, without an address for the child your husband would have to apply to the court for a seek and find order. This can be done with form C4. The form asks for the names of anyone that would know her current address, such as relatives, or agencies such as DWP etc.

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Posted : 01/02/2016 3:33 pm
(@Twiston)
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afraid not! My ex is a millionaires daughter, tbh I dont this should be taken into account but I do think mothers need reminding more that this isnt the 1950s and they too are financially responsible for the child.

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Posted : 01/02/2016 3:35 pm
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