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Hi I am a father of one 14 year old girl that i have never had contact with because of the mother unfortunatly.
Ive recently had my payments stop through the child support agency and the case all handed over to the child maintenance service.
Ive never missed a payment and always wanted to see my daughter but my requests have either simply been ignored or ive been threatened to stay well away.
Ok so to my point... ive been forced to put my daughters maintenance away each month for the last few months into a savings account.
I am all set up with the child maintenance service and the yearly schedule is all arranged and set up too. The CMS have stated that they have been in contact with the mother but as yet she has not been cooperative and given details so she can receive payments.
meanwhile the money is building up in the savings for her
How long should this go on for? Will i be charged if she suddenly gets sorted her end? is it then classed as late payments do i then incurre extra charges?:( or even worse what if she decides late in the day she wants direct pay and there is some kind of extra charge for this and i get bailiffs at the door or something 🙁
Any help would be really appreciated TIA
A Rouse
CMS won't put you on to direct pay, or penalise you if you are willing and trying to pay. I would certainly speak to them and make sure they are aware of this (perhaps call them once a month to "check in"). Certainly keep saving the payments (that also helps your argument that you are willing to pay). I would ask CMS how long this goes on for, and will they close the case at some point? If so, when that happens, you are probably free of liability until (and if) you ex reopens the case, in which case it starts afresh.
Hi There,
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I agree with actd, if you are putting the money to one side and are making regular contact with CMS then you are doing all you can to ensure you are trying to make the payments, if she won't give the details they require then there isn't much that you can do.
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Ensure that each time you contact CMS, you record the exact time and ask for the member of staffs name so that you can refer back to it if needed.
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