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Hi
Need some advice, my ex wife has realised that if she stops over night stays (my son had 3 over night stays a week with me since 2012) that her CSA will increase. I was paying more than CSA requested online and put in to CSA three months ago as she non stop moaned she never got enough even though the estimate was 147 i was given in the end and i was paying £200. Since 7 weeks ago she has stopped all contact and only saturday just gone was i allowed my son for a sleepover as she needed a break. She wont give me sleep overs again as she realises that because she informed CSA i wasnt having my son over night i now have to pay £257. And she asks me to have my son one off sleep overs so i cant inform CSA. I dont even have regular access anymore as it depends on her mood.
How can CSA increase her money when she is refusing me access! I have all the evidence and taking her to court for a contact order and joint residency but how can the system be so anti father! She can refuse to have anything to do with CSA when i made the application but now she has changed her mind and wants more money i have to do what they say when she is the one stopping access to gain more cash.
Is there anything i can do? Any advice ?
Access and maintenance aren't connected, and you have to accept that the CSA most certainly IS anti father and proceed on that basis. Fight for your access and overnight stays! Until you get an order and then have it enforced you are stuffed.
It is correct that maintenance and access aren't connected, except, as you have found, with regards the maintenance payments. You could try pointing out to her, that although the maintenance will be higher, so will her costs as she's going to have to feed and entertain your son now on the nights when you would have done previously.
Bet it won't cost as much as the extra maintenance received though!!!
No, you are right - depends on how good her maths is :whistle:
Hi
I'm facing a similar problem. My ex called CSA to tell them I don't have my boys when I have them every weekend!
When I told them they just said that because she's the main carer that they have to go with what she says.
I can't believe the system is so flawed when she's lying through her teeth.
Apparently I need a court order which will happen eventually through the civil divorce process.
But is there any other way to prove to these people that I have my boys at weekends?
Thanks
I'm afraid it's virtually impossible to prove as far as the CSA are concerned - if there is a dispute, they seem to default to 1 day per week.
Hi There,
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I had this same issue and even though I had a court order in place which showed I had 2 nights every other weekend, CSA still wouldn't decrease the amount I paid, Even though my court order incuded some extra time in school holidays, my ex, told them that there would be weekends my son wouldn't be available so the nights would remain below the threshold. After 6 months though I did contact tham again and asked them to re calculate as I had some history to back up the court order and they did sort the payments out for me. It isn't easy but you can get there.
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