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Hello.
I need some advice as the mother of my 7 month old daughter is refusing me access, we broke up when our daughter was 1-2 months of age and moved a random guy in straight away, he always made it an issue for me seeing my daughter and theh both put pictures of him with my daughter on fb too annoy me etc,
Now the mother has completely locked me out of her life and is talking about getting this new boy to adopt her and has told csa i do not eant anything to do with her just to claim more money from me.
Surely this is unfair as i really want to se my daughter, im trying to save up to get my own property to have my daughter over night at weekends but her lies to the csa are making that hard.
I really need some good advice as to lower this or out her as a horrible immature person, that is emotionally neglecting me and my daughter.
I am a loving father that really just wants to see my daughter, i may be young yes but that doesnt stop me from being the best i can be......but why would she do things like this??
Hi, welcome and I'm sorry to hear you're having difficulties....You've come to the right place, unfortunately, you will find lots of Dads in similar positions to yours and we all try to offer support here.
I've moved your question to a different board where it should get more replies.
Sadly, as said above, it's all too common a situation and a very difficult time for you, I'm sure.
Firstly, you can check your liability for maintenance here;
http://www.cmoptions.org/en/calculator/
In terms of seeing your daughter - you could try mediation (this is mandatory before attempting an application to court anyway) to discuss a way forward for contact.
If your ex won't attend or she attends and you can't agree, the mediator can stamp a C100 form for you to apply to court. Many of our Dads on here self rep and there's an abundance of info in the stickies at the top of our Legal Eagle section.
Keep posting and we will try to help where we can. Good luck.
Heyya...
Thank you for your responce,
I never really wanted too take her to court as its not the best way forward now isit, but then again she is at a young age and wont understand nothing.
I checked the calculator but i still want to know if a woman can be disciplined for lieng to then and tefusing me access just so she can get more money.
Thank you.
Unfortunately not. In the eyes of the court and CSA, contact and maintenance are two very separate issues. To my knowledge, the only proof the CSA accept as proof of contact is a court order if one parent is lying.
You say you don't want to take her to court, but you want her disciplined - but who by? The CSA/CMS aren't interested in anything other than maintenance, anything else is beyond their remit. And realistically, having her disciplined isn't really the main objective, that should be to restore contact, and if she won't agree to it with you, then your only options are mediation and then court (if mediation fails) - I wouldn't worry about her being too young to understand what's going on - she's denying you contact so she's going to have to understand the consequences of her actions.
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