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Hi all,
New to the site. Lon g story short I recently got a promotion at work. My ex took my through the csa before as she'd been told by friends that what I was paying wasn't enough. They reduced the payments as I was paying too much for my earnings. When I got my promotion the first thing I did was go to talk with my ex wife as I knew she'd see pound signs. Arranged a verbal agreement with her that we'd keep it to the set amount for x amount of months as me and my new partner are saving for a new house. In the meantime we agreed that when I receive a letter from the csa that the payments would go up, I pay her an extra £5 per month. Still haven't received a letter yet she demanded the extra this month and threatened to stop me from seeing my boys again. I've since received a letter saying theyve been informed that my income has increased which i can only assume has been from her. I'm at my wits end now with this woman, any advice?
Hi there
As far as I am aware, your earnings would need to increase (or decrease) by at least 25% for the CMS to make an adjustment before the annual review date.
Here's a link to the gov guidelines on how CMS is calculated and the rules that apply to such things as increased income and how they deal with it.
Here's a link to the CMS calculator. Which you may find useful
www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance
All the best
The CMS can't (and won't) enforce the extra £5 per month, so I wouldn't bother with this arrangement. I would let the CMS recalculate and decide if you need to pay straight away, or at the annual review and stick to that amount. That way your ex has no reason to complain.
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