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Ok these is a bit long and sorry about my spelling ect iv lost my glasses . :}
Its about my sons dad ex . Me and my son dad are in the middle of setting up a PA as no way ill go though CSA-CM as i know the [censored] it put him though with his ex . Right new rule say that the PWC can say no to DD if the one paying ask for it right now but once new rule kick in she can not long he stick to the payment .
( These were may get lost sorry ) .
My sons dad ex is a well known lair and dose anything to make him look bad and make people feel sorry for her .she wont let him see their child and knows he cant take her to court due to not having the money .Well over the last 9 year he been trying to set up a PA with her one mint she fine with it then next she not :dry: , she claims to closed down CSA but dose not leaving him with more money to pay her ect .He has a history on CSA files for " NOT" paying thank to her messing about , him losing his job(s) and CSA mess ups,Last we was told by her was she closed the account and was getting her new man to take the rights ( NEVER happened ) He only find out the claim was not closed till last month after 2 close to 3 year of nothing from them . I'v just read a link to a question posted one here ( how i find you lol ) about if their is a history of none payment they want let him set up a PA it have to go though him and he have to pay the extra 20% .
How dose he prove he been trying to set up a PA ??
She want even replay to him when he email her , Charge her number when he get it, RUNS away with her tall between her legs when we see her out and about .
Also anyone know how it work with one on CSA and one on PA with payment .
I care about my son dad allot even low we not together i'v known him for over 13 years ,was together for 6 and half years and we have a 4 and half disable child together . I do not want to have to watch him work him self to his death bed like he was close to doing before he got ill just to live .
And before anyone ask HE want to pay CM to me, But it wont be going to me . It being set up to go right in to his son's saving account witch we can both add to but no one can take out till he's sons 21.
really sorry about my spelling and all hope someone can work all that out . Any help will help just want to see him happy for once more he has to pay more he work then more he pays again and less time he see his son . With him being disable its very hard for him not to see his daddy .
It seems to me that it's worth opening a case with the CMS and using them for calculation purposed only, but set up a direct pay arrangement (which means no fees to either of you) - the CSA are usually only a problem if there is any problem between the parents, but it doesn't seem to be the case with you, and there's nothing to stop you putting the money you receive from him into a savings account. That should put you on an equal basis with his other ex.
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