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Hi,
I am attending mediation does anybody have any advice for me?
Do i stick to the main issue or is this my chance to get everything out in the open?
My ex makes life so difficult for me, I set up mediation. I see my son 2 nights a week and these are Mon, Tue and Wed day till 6pm so his mum can go camping. And the only days she agreed todo was Thursday or Friday when shes not camping, I have to work them days as I only get 2 days off work and I take them so she can go camping. I'm constantly changing everything in my life to suit hers. Ive agreed to do the friday but now she wants it to be shuttled so were not in the same room, I hope this dosn't look bad on me because I have agreed to do either.
Thanks in advance.
Hi there
Mediation is a way to discuss any issues and try to reach resolution. Although it's important that you talk about how you feel, it's probably best not to dwell too much on the problems of the past.
Be clear about what you will accept but try to be flexible, that doesn't mean that you should agree to everything though....she also needs to give and take. Try and be as comprehensive as possible, discuss changing arrangements and how difficult that is due to your work commitments, perhaps ask that you be given a weeks notice and that arrangements should only be changed in an emergency situation, such as for doctors appointments etc.
The fact that she has requested shuttle mediation doesn't give the impression that she wants to work with you, but I wouldn't worry about how it looks for you, try and concentrate on your child and what is best for son. I suggest you write down a list of bullet points of the areas you wish to cover and what you want to achieve.
It might be helpful to take along a completed Parenting Plan, this would be a good starting point. Here's a link to a thread about this
http://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/38959-cafcass-parenting-plan
Thank you, will take a look now.
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