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hi i need some advice
i spilt from my wife 8 yrs ago and have all ways payed my maintenace on a regular basis . we have two children 9 and 13 yrs , the children have always lived with there mother. last september my eldest came to live with me, so we decided that i would claim the tax credit for one son and she would continue to recieive the payment for the second son. i all so continue to pay for my secound son.my question is now my eldest is living with me should i now be receiving a maintance payment from my wife??
regards
Jez
Hi and welcome 🙂
Put simply, yes!
You are entitled to child benefit, child tax credits, working families tax credits and maintenance from your ex.
If you google CSA calculator you can fill out a quick questionnaire and they will tell you roughly how much you should be getting from her, that's if you have an idea of her salary.
You can come to an informal agreement, perhaps agree that as you both have a child each that maintenance is cancelled out of the equation.
Hi There,
I agree with NJ an agreement where neither of you pay would be the easiest option though be careful that you don't stop paying for the child that doesn't live with you and then get CSA chasing you for back payments.
If you currently pay your ex through CSA then if you are able to come to an agreement ensure you discuss this with CSA before changing anything, if you aren't then you shouldn't have an issue as I understand it the CSA can only claim money from you from the date they are contacted so wouldn't be able to back date any amounts owing to before hand (though I may be wrong) so if you don't currently have CSA involved then if your ex were to go to them you could counter claim for the child that lives with you.
The only thing that may not sit well with neither of you paying is if one of you earns considerably more than the other as all CSA payments are calculated on wage.
GTTS
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